I hadn’t heard of candaulism until I read Gisèle Pelicot’s book. In this short clip, I explore what the term means, why it became relevant in this case, and why the real psychological story is ultimately about power, control, consent and coercion rather than sexual preference alone. This clip is taken from my full Psychology Behind the Story episode exploring the psychology of Gisèle Pelicot, including trauma, betrayal, shame, survival and recovery. 🎙️ Watch the full episode on YouTube: The Psychology of Gisèle Pelicot | Trauma, Shame & Survival #GiselePelicot #Psychology #Trauma #CoerciveControl #TrueCrimePsychology

What can the story of Gisèle Pelicot teach us about trauma, trust, betrayal, shame and survival? Have you read it? What did you think? Comment below. In this episode of The Psychology Behind the Story, clinical psychologist Dr Marianne Trent explores the powerful memoir of Gisèle Pelicot and the devastating case that shocked the world. Rather than focusing on the criminal details alone, Marianne examines the psychological themes that emerge from the story, including trust, coercive control, trauma, betrayal, compartmentalisation, shame, consent, survival strategies and self-compassion. We explore what happens when someone discovers that the person they trusted most has been living a hidden life, how trauma can affect identity and memory, and why the phrase "shame has to change sides" is such an important psychological message for survivors. This episode also discusses: Trauma and betrayal trauma Coercive control and manipulation Trust and psychological safety Shame, self-blame and recovery Compartmentalisation and personality Trauma responses and survival strategies The impact of abuse on families Self-compassion after trauma Recovery, resilience and hope The psychology behind Gisèle Pelicot's story This is a compassionate, psychologically informed exploration of one of the most shocking and significant stories of recent years, and what it can teach us about human behaviour, survival and healing. #giselepelicot #TraumaPsychology #PsychologyBehindTheStory Highlights 00:00 - The question everyone keeps asking 01:05 - Trust, safety and sleeping beside someone 03:15 - Compartmentalisation and hidden lives 05:40 - The scale of the abuse and its psychological impact 06:56 - Power, control and candaulism 08:25 - Coercive control and manipulation in relationships 09:41 - The impact on family relationships 11:07 - Could anyone really know the "real" Dominique? 13:05 - Why "shame has to change sides" matters 14:19 - Trauma, memory and survival 15:13 - Watching the evidence and psychological protection 16:19 - Recovery, intimacy and reclaiming identity 17:26 - Self-compassion and healing after trauma 18:15 - Why Gisèle's faith in humanity is so powerful 19:04 - Final reflections and key psychological lessons Check out reviews or grab a copy of Gisele Pelicot's Story, A Hymn to Life: Shame has to change sides: https://amzn.to/4vO0Im7 🔔 Subscribe for More Psychology Insights! 👉 Never miss an episode: Subscribe now 🎧 Stay Connected With Me 🌍 Aspiring Psychologists Website: www.aspiring-psychologist.co.uk 🌍 Good Thinking Psychology Website: www.goodthinkingpsychology.co.uk 💼 LinkedIn: Dr Marianne Trent: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-marianne-trent-psychology/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GoodThinkingPsychologicalServices 🐦 Twitter/X: @DrMarianneTrent 📸 Instagram: @DrMarianneTrent 🎵 TikTok: @DrMarianneTrent 📩 Business & Collaboration Enquiries ✉️ Email: Info@GoodThinkingPsychology.co.uk ⚠️ Disclaimer This content is for informational and educational purposes only. It does not constitute medical, psychological, or professional advice. Any actions taken based on this content are at your own risk. 💡 Want to support the channel? Like, comment, and share this video! © Dr Marianne Trent

Why do we keep repeating relationship patterns that no longer serve us? In this episode of Psychology, Actually, Dr Marianne Trent is joined by fellow Clinical Psychologist Dr Kate Sherratt to explore attachment, relational patterns, dating psychology, burnout, self-esteem and why our earliest relationships can quietly shape the way we navigate adult life. From people-pleasing and emotional shutdown… to burnout at work, dating “catnip”, anxious attachment and struggling to ask for needs to be met - this conversation explores the hidden relational patterns that often sit underneath our everyday struggles. ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 Why relationship problems often begin long before dating 01:14 What are relational patterns? 02:46 Burnout and old emotional patterns 05:30 Formulation and understanding your “user manual” 07:09 Protector patterns and emotional self-reliance 09:14 Supervision, attachment and criticism sensitivity 11:10 Why praise sometimes doesn’t go in 14:49 Building healthier self-esteem 16:30 Dating, consistency and emotional safety 17:25 Attachment theory and dating patterns 20:04 Dating “icks”, red flags and emotional catnip 22:29 Love bombing and unhealthy intensity 23:34 People-pleasing in relationships 26:27 What does a healthy relationship actually look like? 28:46 Deal breakers, values and emotional safety 30:51 Why emotional catnip can keep you stuck 33:36 Inner Work and deeper reflections Connect with Dr Kate Sherratt here: https://www.instagram.com/drkate.psychologist https://www.drkatesherratt.com 🔔 Subscribe for More Psychology Insights! 👉 Never miss an episode: Subscribe now 📚 My Books on Amazon 📖 The Grief Collective → https://amzn.to/4hNHru5 📖 The Clinical Psychologist Collective → https://amzn.to/3ErIEJs 📖 The Aspiring Psychologist Collective → https://amzn.to/4jSxc9N 📖 Talking Heads: Stories of Psychology & Mental Health → https://amzn.to/3EvbKaN 📖 An Autistic Anthology: Neuro-Narratives of Mental Health Professionals → https://amzn.to/3WXBpz9 🎧 Stay Connected With Me 🌍 Aspiring Psychologists Website: www.aspiring-psychologist.co.uk 🌍 Good Thinking Psychology Website: www.goodthinkingpsychology.co.uk 💼 LinkedIn: Dr Marianne Trent: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-marianne-trent-psychology/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GoodThinkingPsychologicalServices 🐦 Twitter/X: @DrMarianneTrent 📸 Instagram: @DrMarianneTrent 🎵 TikTok: @DrMarianneTrent 📩 Business & Collaboration Enquiries ✉️ Email: Info@GoodThinkingPsychology.co.uk ⚡ Want More? Check These Out! 🔹 Join the Aspiring Psychologist Membership: Learn more here 🔹 Download my FREE Psychology Success Guide: Grab your copy here ⚠️ Disclaimer This content is for informational and educational purposes only. It does not constitute medical, psychological, or professional advice. Any actions taken based on this content are at your own risk. 💡 Want to support the channel? Like, comment, and share this video! © Dr Marianne Trent

Apparently even the Romans complained that life was moving too fast! So no wonder 2026 feels like a lot! honestly says a lot about being human. In this clip from Psychology, Actually Lily Silverton and I explore overwhelm, modern life, attention fatigue and why humans have probably always struggled with feeling overloaded by change and information. 🎥 Watch on YouTube: search Dr Marianne Trent 🎙️ Listen wherever you get your podcasts: search Psychology, Actually #overwhelm #modernoverwhelm #modernlifeisrubbish #priortiseyourself #priorities